The suggested time frame for this video/writing response/discussion course is:
For schools: Ten to twelve classroom periods minimum.
For groups: Six - 1 1/2 to 2 hour sessions with break after the writing, discussion after the break.
For Families: 5 evenings with ongoing discussions or weekend retreat format If possible, have an initial showing of all videos that parents can attend.

First Meeting: Teacher/Leader prepares the group:
1. Explain why you selected this series, what you hope everyone to gain.
2. Read over together the rules of best thinking/learning.
3. Give background information on all five videos of series from the "Sneak Preview" Section.

Last Meeting: If you have the time, watch all the videos again at the end of all the discussions. Different ideas will be heard by different teens each time they see it.

Additional copies of this workbook are available at bulk prices from Respect Incorporated with next day shipping available. It is illegal to copy any pages. Also, any separation of the materials will seriously decrease the effectiveness and integrity of the program.

 

Why Do You Need Your Own Workbook?

You Learn More When You work Than When You Watch

You remember :
10% of what you hear
30% of what you see
50% of what you see and hear
90% of what you do

This extraordinary workbook will help you define the concepts shown in the videos. It’ll help you learn something good that you won’t get from regular T.V. or workbooks.

Knowing you have to write provides an additional opportunity for thinking through this information and pondering its place in your decision making.

Thinking out and writing your own answers, rather than just discussing them, helps you own your answers, because you do the thinking, concluding, and writing.

Possessing your own workbook gives you a chance to keep your thoughts private if you choose, define them before you discuss them. You can take the workbook home and share the information with parents, siblings, or friends.

Possessing your own workbook keeps the thoughts contained, organized, and ready to read again at a later time, when you may need to review it.

Exercising your mind can improve your mental fitness. These exercises will begin a continuous opportunity to ponder this valuable, thought-provoking and sometimes life-changing information.

Very little else you’re going
to watch will have this kind
of positive impact on your
life so try to use these
videos and workbooks to
their fullest advantage.

Guidelines for the Best Thinking/Learning Plan
(To be gone over each viewing day until you remember them)
1. WATCH the video in silence with the reaction sheet in front of you. JOT DOWN anything that stands out for you. What is funny, important, striking, or unusual. Please do not talk, or make any comments or reactional gestures. Keep your reactions to your sheet and give the people around you the freedom to respond individually without your influence.

In short: Comments? Write it, don’t advertise it.

2. THINK. Without a sound, when the video is over, THINK!
Look at no one else. Look at your paper or close your eyes for a few minutes. Write down under section one any additional comments that you remember.

3. WRITE…five complete sentences of information that you learned from this video. Yeah, with the subject, predicate…you know. Be honest and thoughtful, not sarcastic or funny. Some of you will find that easy, others may find it difficult, but try your best.

AAAHHH! It’s still peace and quiet time. Everyone needs quiet reflection time now and then. No music or talking will distract us as we face our inner thoughts and stirrings. A few people may be uncomfortable in the quiet, but it’s best to allow them to work through their feelings without clowning or talking to cover up or avoid their feelings. The quiet time will be helpful to all.

4. Now, WORK! Turn to the workbook pages. Read, Think, Conclude, and Write.
These are all privileges reserved for human beings.
The reading and questions are designed to help you ANALYZE (yes, more human-only skill) the problems, comments and stories on the video.
Then apply them to the personal and social situations you are familiar with.
Think hard. Decide well. Write down your answers.

The session will probably end while you are still writing. Take a break.
Teacher/Leader decide if you finish for homework, during the break, or continue during the next meeting.

When the writing is completed, you’ve had a chance to reflect on the information in the film and the information inside of you…hopefully without distractions.

5. DISCUSSION TIME! Now you can talk when it’s your turn, and listen when it’s someone else’s turn to talk. In most discussions, the most outspoken people get the first say, but don’t be afraid to express whatever you think would be helpful to others. You’ve had time to think and formulate your ideas on paper. Hopefully, you can all learn from each other.

The teacher/leader should help your discussion focus on what is healthy, good and true. If you need to go over some rules for a good discussion, do so before you start.

Sneak Previews

Video #1 "Not Doing It" is a celebration of the rewards of saving sex for marriage. In this film, you will see many personal testimonials of teens blended between a dramatic story. The lead character in the story Julie thinks she loves her boyfriend Jason, who has given her the ultimatum, "If you love me, you’ll prove it." You can guess how he wants her to prove it. Julie’s quest for the right choice takes you through her life, her friends, a caring teacher who also faced the same choice years earlier, and her class reunion ten years later. Between story segments, you’ll be introduced to real teens who have chosen to wait. They will tell you why they’ve made that commitment.
(27 minutes)
After the film, you will work Chapter 1 in this textbook, CHOOSING FREEDOM.

Video #2 "Why I Waited" features the true testimonial of Jennifer Kissick, a former Miss Teenage America, who accomplished her goal of being a virgin on her wedding night. Jennifer will share her motivation and the plan she used to accomplish that goal. You’ll hear about the trials and temptations during the dating years of this positive role model. You’ll see some of the things she was able to do with her life because she was not emotionally tied up in sexual involvement. You’ll be inspired to follow her leadership.
(18 minutes)
You will follow this film by working Chapter 2 of this textbook, ACHIEVING FREEDOM.

Video #3 "But You Can’t Hide" is a tragic but true story that teaches that ‘you can run…but you can’t hide…’ from the dangers of premarital sex. It’s an opportunity for you to see, from the outside looking in, the sobering story of a girl who thought she was in love with her boyfriends, so it seemed right…from the inside. As the viewer, you will see that: You can fool yourself into thinking that common sense and contraception will protect you; You can imagine that in your teens you are mature enough to handle being used for someone else’s pleasure and then discarded; You can mistakenly believe that abortion is a contraceptive that will help you in an emergency and not harm you emotionally for the rest of your life. But you can’t hide from the reality.
(27 minutes)
Chapter 3 of this workbook, LOSING FREEDOM, will help you think through how to avoid some of Nicole’s mistakes.

Video #4 "Done That, Changed My Ways" covers the true stories of two teens who volunteered to record this video after they had seen video #1 and wanted to help other teens avoid their mistakes. The young man had graduated from high school never kissing a girl or drinking alcohol. But a snowboarding accident that nearly killed his mentor and ‘support system’ sent him into rebellion. At a party he got drunk and lost his virginity to a girl he didn’t even know. His finacee had a different past. (O.K., so their names rhyme. We’ve not changing their real names.) She became sexually active at 13, even got a job at a birth control clinic, and set out on a heartbreaking cycle of relationships. Both, who hated what they did, resolved to change their ways through secondary virginity, deciding now to save all their passion for marriage. Their standards of affection and preparation for marriage make them role models for change beyond the norm!
(15 minutes)
You’ll work Chapter 4 of this textbook, TAKING FREEDOM BACK, to help you examine your own meanings of affection and how you can become a support system for your friends.

Video #5 "Dating: Predator or Partner" will help you classify the two types of people who date: predators or partners. Predators will do or say what is necessary to get themselves gratification; partners are friends who wish not only to have fun, but to respect the people they date. Partners desire to act in accordance with what is best for the friends they date. You’ll see a diverse chorus of attitudes and opinions on dating. You’ll follow the stories of one predator and one partner from the beginning influences that lead them to their actions, to how and why they both ended up saving sex for marriage. By the end of this film, you’ll have heard what to watch out for, and how to devise your own plan for the freedom of saving sex until marriage.
(27 minutes)
You’ll have an opportunity to examine your ideas and write them out as you complete Chapter 5 in this workbook, SHARING FREEDOM.

WHAT IS HUMAN SEXUALITY?*

This is a book about SEX, a subject that’s sure to get your attention. But before you can learn anything else about the subject, you need to understand what human sexuality is. There’s so much being seen, heard, said, and even sung about sex today, and in all the confusion, people seem to have come up with the idea that sex is only something to do. In reality, our sexuality is a part of our personality. It’s not just our sexual organs and what we do or don’t do with them. It’s all the traits and values—physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual—that make a person male or female.

One way the word sex is used is to refer to our gender, male or female. From the moment we are conceived, our maleness or femaleness is determined. Even a newborn child is a sexual being. As soon as we are born, people eagerly ask, "Is it a boy or a girl?" Our identity in the world is already being formed.

Indeed, our sexuality, or the way we express ourselves as a male or female person, is part of us from the very beginning of life. Some of our expressions are determined by heredity, and others are learned as we interact with the world around us. We begin, very early in life, then, to find ways to express our sexuality in words and emotions, feelings and thoughts, love and tenderness, unselfish actions, and in other creative ways.

The word sex is also used frequently to refer to the physical and personal act of male and female genital union, sexual intercourse. This union brings with it an awesome responsibility for the persons involved and thus must be discussed and treated with respect. So sex is more than just the fun and games that the movies might make it seem, and sexuality is part of our whole personality.